independence and freedom

As teenage girls, we can regularly be stereotyped as boy crazy. Your natural instinct may be to argue against such points, yet with consideration and maybe enlightenment, I've come to notice a bit of those characteristics in each of us.

To begin with, I don't think we are all born with this mindset of boys, boys, boys. Instead, we are brought up surrounded by screens, posters and people projecting the concept of teenage love and the idea of fascination with the opposite sex. The repetition and regularity of such messages will impact even those strong-minded, and as the road to teenage hood approaches, the impact of such concepts begins to take control of the steering wheel.

Now if you know anything about me, I am not someone who is drowning in male contact, if paddling in any. Yet, over the past few months, events have led me to notice small changes in regards to my thoughts and actions. It's ridiculous to be blunt with you all. Girls push for independence and equality yet our minds are contaminated with boy disease. My school is flooded with capable and strong females, yet daily I witness those trapped, their male acquaintances almost building a fence around their mind and actions. Every conversation is boy, every movement is boy, every thought, boy. I mean what else is there to be doing with your life, right?

Our constant obsession with males is degrading. Unknowingly they consume our thoughts and actions, through no fault but our own and society. Our image, values, beliefs and attitudes all adjust to their suiting. Every move is re-considered to their opinion.

To girls out there, being with or around boys is fine, don't get me wrong. However, when your relationship with males  changes who you are and what you stand for, then there is an issue. Girls should be taught self-love and be encouraged to discover their passion and views on the world. We are each our own person, not controlled by anyone or anything, each with the possibility of capability and influence.

OG